Kindness- Clear and Simple – ‘Do you need help?’

Pick the path of kindness

My blog topics tend to have the common theme of kindness. Kindness has become the foundation of my operating system. When I receive the energy of pure, plain kindness, for my daughter or myself, I feel this in my heart, and it raises my vibration.

An acquaintance popped into my mind when I was super ill with some virus. I reached out with inquiry and my update. The quick and timely response was… ‘Sorry to hear. Do you need any help?’ I quickly responded with a no and a thank you. Wow, they asked me if I needed help. Wow…pause.

I realized I am not asked this question often. Kindness… genuine… kindness, brought me to a full-stop. I was profoundly impacted by this question for the next 24 hours and before I could move forward, I had to reach out, acknowledge, and express my gratitude for this beautiful offer.

Perhaps, I have given the impression to others that I do not need any help. In this modern world, I can order groceries and cooked meals to my door. I can take a taxi to the doctor or hospital. Perhaps I do not need a lot of help, AND yet, it was so nice to receive the question of care from another. It felt so genuine and it was a priceless gift of kindness.

Why did this question bring me to a full-stop? Do people still offer to help others? Me and my single mom friends, we help each other as much as we can, and yet our days are scheduled down to the minute with school, work, and evening activities, so help is typically planned.

I also realized that I do not ask people very often if they need help. As I single-parent my girl who interprets the world differently, I can easily claim I have no time. And now, I am changing this. If I can offer others the feeling I felt, this is a beautiful priceless gift.

As love day approaches, February 14^th, I consider love and romance and compare it to kindness and connection. What is the hell is love? I have loved others first and did not realize I was supposed to tend to my self-love as well. I realized in some cases honouring someone I loved required me to dishonour myself. In my world, romance takes place in the early stages of a relationship and has not endured the test of time.

Kindness, on the other hand, is simple and clear and easy to recognize. The reciprocity of kindness creates connection and those of you who know me know I am all about connection.

I follow David Ghiyam, a spiritual leader of Kabbalah, which is a mystical aspect of Judaism. He asked the question one day “Are you producing energy, or are you consuming energy?”

So now, I am now intentionally creating/producing a circle of kindness and connection around me and my life. And I am confident all good things flow from this. I will be forever grateful to this human for their words of kindness and care, and they may never know their ripple effect.  

I want to have people in my life that will ask me this question and show up to help. I want to be this for other people too. We all need this, and we are not meant to do this alone.

And the easy way to start is by asking the question, ‘Do you need any help?’